Part of the definition of Stress is:
Stress can come from any situation or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, nervous, or anxious.
So this poses the question, what makes YOU feel this way?
The reason for the emphasis on “you” above is we all have our own reasons for being stressed. But if I was in your position would I be as stressed as you? Maybe not, but Possibly more so.
This simply means that depending on the persons thoughts or how they perceive the situation to be, depends on how stressed you would become in any given situation.
An easy way in this case to stop stress all together would be to take on the mindset or beliefs of the person that perceives that this particular situation is not stressful at all. And although easier said than done I do believe to be possible. This may not be ideal though as this relaxed person may not care at all and this is not a great attitude to have when dealing with certain situations, but does seem to help ensuring low stress levels.
The point of these words are not to encourage you not to care or to try and think in a way that is less than what you are doing now, but to highlight the massive importance of how perception is everything with regards to stress.
Malegra
Your boss tells you that “you’re not performing and need to increase your productivity or find a new job” is more stressful if you have a family to support and are up to your eyeballs in debt. But the person with one million in the bank may not mind so much. This is completely understandable as there is more to lose however, they are exactly the same situation just perceived in a different way.
The reason why this advice is so important is you will always find things in life to be stressful if you perceive them in a particular way. Stress is like a habit, first you only get stressed about major things and before you know it you are shouting at the coffee table for that edge you just walked into.
But the next time you are on the edge of losing your battle against stress ask one question:
Will I deal better with this situation stressed or calm?
There are not many times I would choose the stressed option, just remember when you are making your choice (and it is a choice I promise) your health is the most important thing in the world.
